Melindaing

All my life I have been waiting to finally be adored enough – to find the one who would be so enamored of me that the relationship would work. And as you might imagine, I’ve made more than one or two men bad and wrong along the way.

A few months ago my friend James told me that he loved himself most when he was there for another – that he was creating a relationship that included being of service. Which created an inquiry beneath the surface around the question of what really lights me up in relationship.

I found my answer in a child. The last time I spent time with my friend’s daughter Talia she told everyone she met that she loved them. I remembered how completely and utterly oblivious of being adored she was – how she loved everyone she met unconditionally – and how happy and free she was. This weekend [during a review of a transformation course, I began to see that I’ve had it bass ackwards all this time – that what really lights me up is allowing myself fully and completely to love and adore another. That it is in the giving that I most know and love myself. So I am creating the possibility of being loving adoration. Prepare to be lovingly adored the next time we meet.